After we go through difficult challenges, life can change us. In this, we can experience grief. We grieve how our lives used to be and the stability of the people and things around us. Maybe you lost a friendship with someone close. Maybe an illness changed you. Maybe you moved to new place where you found it hard to adjust. Maybe there was a huge life shift that made you grieve and miss the old life and experiences you had. It is ok to miss the stage in your life when everything felt secure. You can absolutely grieve the memories of the life you had before the heartache and sorrow. Perhaps, if you shift your perspective, this new chapter in your life is working in your favor. The shift was designed for your good.
Grieving your old life before the blow that happened can be hard. It feels like you are just bypassing through life sometimes. It feels heavy grabbing hold on to this new version of you while simultaneously letting go what used to be. The change has affected your capacity to see the new that lies ahead. That major event that happened to you altered everything that was dear to you. What you went through was extremely traumatic. It completely left you unsettled. God knew it was going to shake your spirit. He knew that this life change would cause you to feel lonely. The process may have even left you feeling indifferent because the impact was too great. Finding hope in the new will be hard; however, this shift is happening for your good.
Grieving the old you before that life changing moment can be a painful experience. God already knows what that period in your life may look like. It will be hard, messy, chaotic and frustrating; however, He also knows what beautiful pieces that will come from you in this season. What happened completely changed you. Things may look bleak in your world right now. It will not stay that way. The struggle you feel in accepting the future will only be temporary. God specializes in making all things new. He will turn what happened to you for your advantage. He knows exactly how to use that moment that changed you for His glory. It may feel inconvenient or uncomfortable to try to see the good in this major shift, but God promises to be with you every step of the way. Peace will eventually fulfill your heart. This new chapter of your life is going to reveal the reason you did not give up before the miracle. Give God a chance to help you find the beauty in grieving the past you.
“He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Then He said, “Write this down, for these words are trustworthy and true.” -Revelation 21:5
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past.
See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” -Isaiah 43:18-19
“I consider that our present sufferings are not worth comparing with the glory that will be revealed in us.” -Romans 8:18